The As-Samī‘ Speech and Values Alignment Worksheet

This worksheet is designed to bridge the gap between our internal intentions and our external actions. In the framework of As-Samī‘, we remember that speech is never random. Our words, outward and inward, are the rehearsal for our life. When we speak in alignment with our values, we move from internal conflict into congruence, where our thoughts, words, and actions begin to match.

RAMADAN 2026/1447

Hauwa Bello

3/7/20262 min read

Du‘ā line: “Discipline my speech so it reflects my values.”

Step 1: Identifying Your Core Values

We cannot align our speech to our values if we have not named them. Choose three values that matter most to you in this season.

Examples: Integrity, Compassion, Honesty, Patience, Discipline, Courage, Service.

Value 1: ____________________
Value 2: ____________________
Value 3: ____________________

Step 2: The Speech Audit

Reflect on your communication over the last 24 hours, both what you said to others and what you said to yourself in your internal monologue.

The lapse: What is one thing you said that felt hollow, harsh, or out of alignment with your values?
Example: “I snapped at my child because I was tired.”
Example: “I told myself I’m a failure because I missed my morning goals.”

The value violation: Which of your core values did that speech contradict?

Step 3: The Wise Mind Reframing

In therapy, we use reframing to move from disempowering language into value-aligned truth. Let’s apply wise mind to the lapse.

The emotional thought (raw feeling):
“I am so lazy, and I’ll never change.”

The rational fact (objective reality):
“I am tired today, and I missed my target.”

The wise mind reframing (value-aligned speech):
“I value discipline. Even though I am tired and missed a goal, I will show up for five minutes now to honour my commitment.”

Step 4: The Integrity Filter

Before your next conversation, or your next round of self-talk, run your words through this three-part filter, in the spirit of As-Samī‘:

Is it true? Does it match the facts, or is it a cognitive distortion?
Is it necessary? Does it move me toward my goals, or does it feed an impulse?
Does it honour my values? Does this reflect who I am trying to become?

Clinical Insight: Breaking the Autopilot

By consciously reframing your language, you retrain your brain. You move from compulsion, reacting from old scripts, to regulation, choosing from your values. This is how speech becomes a path of change.

Daily Commitment

“Because Allah is As-Samī‘, He hears my silence as clearly as my speech. Today, I will honour Him by speaking to myself with compassion and truth, and speaking to others with integrity.”

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