Khair Always In shaa Allah!
The Al-Wadūd Self-Love Check-In (Worksheet)
This Al-Wadūd Self-Love Check-In is a gentle worksheet to help you move from conditional worth (“I must earn love”) into active affection—the kind of self-care that sustains real growth. Using the grounding of Days 1–4 (safety, repair, subtle kindness, and receiving), it guides you to notice how you’re speaking to yourself, how you return after slips, and how you receive care—so your Ramadan change is steady, not shame-driven.
RAMADAN 2026/1447
Hauwa Bello
2/21/20261 min read
The Al-Wadūd Self-Love Check-In
Self-love isn’t a reward for a “good” day. It’s the energy that makes growth possible. After reflecting on the relational love of Al-Wadūd, let’s check how we’re showing up for ourselves today.
1) The “Safety vs. Demand” Audit (Day 1)
In the spirit of Day 1, we ask: Are we trying to grow out of shame or out of safety?
Reflect: Today, did I speak to myself more like a harsh critic—or like a supportive therapist?
The Shift: If you catch a “demand” (“I should have done more”), pause and offer a “safety” statement instead:
“I am doing what I can, and that is enough for now.”
2) Monitoring the “Return” (Day 2)
With Ar-Raḥīm, the question is: when we slip, do we abandon ourselves—or do we repair?
Reflect: When I missed a goal or had a lapse today, did I abandon myself or repair the connection?
The Shift: Remind yourself: repetition does not cancel compassion. Growth happens because you keep returning.
3) Noticing “Subtle Kindnesses” (Day 3)
With Al-Laṭīf, we practice seeing the quiet care already happening.
Reflect: What is one small, “unannounced” thing I did for my well-being today?
(e.g., drank water, took a deep breath, said “no,” paused before reacting)
The Shift: Don’t dismiss small steps. These are your “hammer strikes”—progress beneath the surface.
4) Receiving Without Justifying (Day 4)
With Al-Wadūd, love is not earned—it is received.
Reflect: When someone offered kindness today, did I try to pay it back immediately—or explain why I didn’t deserve it?
The Shift: Practice receiving without justifying. Next time care comes your way, simply say: “Thank you.” Let it sit in your heart.
Closing: Pick one shift to practice tonight. One is enough.
Because self-love is not the finish line—it’s what helps us keep going.
Click the link to download the worksheet PDF—print it and write on it, or simply fill it in directly on your phone.
